This particular blog post was something I had discussed with my close friend regarding techniques in general. Yes, we might seem geeky; we were scrutinizing every pore and every minute detail of a male-female interaction.
In the history of game, every single technique ever taught can be broken down into push-pull dynamic. Think about it..
What is Passive Value? Its something that will Pull the girl towards you.
What is Leading and Escalating? Its also a Pull. Its makes the lady attracted to you because you are dominant and you do not buckled under social pressure.
Lets take a look at the classic example of the genuine interest direct or GID (this is my favourite!).
GID in this example, is a push. Lets take a look here, when some random guy goes up to and delivers the GID on her, the girl’s initial instinct is to either go away or stay there. Her fight-or-flight response activates here. This is a PUSH. But because you give off the vibe that you are high value (through your body language and tonality, your fashion); it creates intrigue in her and it PULLs her towards you. It makes her want to find out more about you. Even your smile, when delivered correctly is considered a PULL too.
David Tien wrote an excellent article which could be a supplement to this blog post. Take a look here: http://www.thesocialman.com/using-cocky-funny-right/ A few thoughts regarding his article: The more you get better at pull, the more ballsy you can get with push. The more you get better at that, the more things you can do to pull.
Take a look at Nick Sparks’ videos in http://www.doctorasianrake.com/category/video-blog/# He is an exemplar in this push-pull cocky funny dynamic. I learnt a lot just by looking at him in action! He is really good at doing both push and pull factor. Stuffs that he spewed out such as ‘yeah yeah guys like that,’ & ‘this is boring’ → its all push!
In retrospect, the difference is not between bad boys and nice guys. In actual fact, its between guys who have interactions ‘high, low, high, low, high, high low, high low’ and between guys who have ‘medium, medium, medium, medium, medium’. In the end, both parties can be nice ‘on average’ but the second guy in this case falls onto the LJBF zone.
Maybe We shouldn’t call it push-pull here. Its something to do with ‘ramping up the tension – releasing the tension’ dynamic.
Well, if you don’t get the gist of this article, I can sum it up in one sentence → Don’t be boring. Period.